Do you ever eat? Eat a cheeseburger. Is your whole family like you? Side glances as I go to the bathroom..is she? Could she be? Lets try this another way…Do you ever stop eating? Eat a salad. Is your whole family like you? Side glances when you super size. God look at her. Offended more now?

Body shaming. As women we specialize in this. We do it to strangers, friends, family. Worse yet we do it to ourselves. Shaming is shaming no matter what size. I’ve body shamed countless times. It’s not something I’m proud of but I’m regretful enough to admit it. You all have body shamed. It’s not appropriate no matter what size or shape.

In a nation where women are sexualized daily we need to come together. This isn’t a PC issue. It’s an epidemic. Be proud of your curves. Be proud of you bone structure. Be a good person on the inside. And be kind to others…empathize with what you may not know.

At lunch today I ordered something I love. The vegetarian D (insert Inappropriate giggles) off the menu. Chili rellano, bean burrito and a quesadilla. Lots of food. I love my Hispanic food almost as much as my Italian food. I love food in general and I can pack it away. Food is my friend. So as I dug into my food one of my lunch friends said “that’s a lot of food for you”… I replied with half a pepper hanging out of my mouth “You think? You should see me with pasta.” I thought this is where it would end…

Nope. As this good natured individual proceeded into my office she commented “I suppose you won’t eat dinner? That was a lot of food. I mean you are soooo skinny.” I pleasantly smiled and said that I ate breakfast and will also be having dinner. She then asked what my family was like in body type.

Ok. I get it. It’s easier when you are thin. You would think after a lifetime of this I would get used to it. Yep. I’m not ok with this. This is reverse body shaming. And body shaming is never ok. I take care of myself. I eat healthy. And oh yeah my secret for the last number of years….I have cancer.

Remember this as you judge others. As you joke or as you assume. God makes us each beautiful. No matter what size, hue, faith, or love choice. We are beautiful from the inside.

I have picked many a wine bottle for the beautiful label only to sip vinegar shit. Don’t be that wine. And don’t let others tell you how you should look. Is it easier to look, act and love a certain way? Definitely. But this doesn’t mean there is a free pass to place judgement on others.

Long rant short…don’t be a player in this crap. Love vs judge. More good vs look good. Kindness vs envy. Trust me…those you envy may not have the life (or health) you think.